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Okay, so you blew your diet for the last few days. You were doing so well for so long and now you are upset that it took you so long to lose a few ponds and in a brief period of time you gained back a bunch of weight. So what happens now? Do you just give up and resign yourself to being over weight? Do you resign yourself that you are going to get even more obese than you are now? Ultimately, as you know, the choice is yours and your choice is one that will have profound effects on the rest of your life. So why are you feeling so bummed out and depressed for eating poorly for a few days?
You are not in competition with anyone to lose weight, or at least you shouldn’t be in competition with anyone. The only person you need to be in a race to thinness is with yourself. The best reason to lose weight is for health and anything else is a misleading reason. Let us say that again….You should be losing weight for the sole purpose of being healthy. Period! The logic behind this concept is actually liberating for you on your journey to lose weight. If you try to make healthy choices for the sake of being healthy you will lose weight as a byproduct of those choices. If you try to lose weight so you can go to a wedding then you will more than likely fail in that attempt in the long run. A simple reason for your failure after failure at dieting is because diets do not work. What you need to do is change your life style and make better choices. Eat more fruit, drink more water, eat smaller portions and get out and exercise. If you spend the rest of your life trying to make HEALTHY choices and actually make more of those choices than unhealthy choices you will lose weight. If you spend all your efforts depriving yourself of your favorite foods you will slip up and beat yourself up until you feel as if you failed. Instead of starting a diet start a “live-it” and include all the choices of food you love. The trick is to include them in moderation and only after you have made many good choices.
So, if you are banging your head against the wall over a blown diet you need to stop. What you need to do is enjoy the “poor” choices and then pick yourself up and start your weight loss journey again. As you make choices in your day choose wisely. You do not have to stick your hand in every candy jar at work; you just need to stick it in much less often. By allowing yourself a treat every now and then you are not failing you are preventing deprivation. That deprivation is what will wipe out your emotional reservoir for dieting. By allowing a cheeseburger or fries every now and then you are setting up long term success. A diet is not a race to thinness; it is a journey to wellness. To get wellness just take your time and inch toward your goal with lasting dedication. If your diet plans wavered over the weekend that is alright. Just get right back in the weight loss arena and keep going. After all, your weight loss is an ongoing project that really will never have a finish line. When you do lose all the weight you want to lose you then must keep going to maintain that weight loss. That is why you need to plan weight loss around healthy choices as you can not live a life on a diet. Trying to live a life on a diet is why so many people give up and decide that being obese has to be a way of their life.
You will know better and you will just continue down the weight loss path stopping and starting all along the way. By not trying to make a dash you will make it to the end and be able to achieve all of your health goals and in those goals somewhere will be weight loss.

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Everyday is a day to make choices when it comes to losing weight and fitness. For most people getting out to do the cardiovascular exercise on a daily basis can be most of the battle. You may have a great weight loss morning and afternoon, in your food choices, and then blow the whole day that same night. All too often people get motivated to “get healthy” and start a program and get positive results for awhile but then wander into failure. If you are, or have been in this situation then you by no means alone.

All too often individuals get discouraged or distressed and then wander into a repetitive situation that breeds failure and then more discouragement. What is meant by this is that all too often a person is dieting to  lose weight and then one day has a candy bar. Up until that point there was an imaginary barrier and that candy bar was on the other side. After the candy bar is eaten there is a feeling of failure and dejection. If not “checked” this emotion will result in more candy bars and less exercise and then total abandonment of the weight loss / fitness goals. This is, more often than not, the continuation of a perceived cycle of dieting failures because this was just one of many attempts to lose weight that resulted in failure.

A simple cure for this is to skip the “diet” and change the lifestyle. What is meant by this is that if you just try to exercise for the fitness aspect, losing weight becomes part of the equation without the ups and downs of perceived diet failures. If you can start an exercise routine you will be able to “blow” your “diet” on a Friday night every now and then. This is because if you try to get your body healthy through exercise you will not only change your body but you will also change your thinking. If you get into a routine and stick with it for awhile you will actually enjoy performing the exercise.  After it becomes a habit (14 days) your mindset starts to change and eating right is less of an issue.  It is less of an issue because the focus of your attention isn’t to just lose weight, it is to become healthier.  This will begin to manifest itself in eating less bread sticks or not loading up the baked potato.  The choices you make to eat will not be limited to diet foods but will expand to any foods.  You will just learn, and desire, to to be smarter about your food choices because you want to be able to exercise better because you want to be healthy.  When you start to eat right you will be able to stray every once in awhile because ultimately you will be back at the gym on Monday.

By starting an exercise regiment before starting a “diet” you will allow your mind to adjust to the fact that you are doing good things to your body. After awhile the food choices will become easier to decide in the direction of being healthier.  By trying to be healthy you will not have to diet because you will make better choices in not only diet, but also in quality and quantity.

I have been trying to lose weight for years.  I read all of the facts about how being obese hurts my health and well being, yet I still cannot stick with a diet or a meal plan.  I get started and do great dieting, for awhile, and then one day I start to slip and falter and the downward slide towards diet failure begins once again.  I then wake up one day and the diet is essentially over and I have gained more weight, once again.

Does that sound familiar?  Is this the story of your life?  If so, you are not alone.

When you are talking weight loss and you have an issue that you cannot stick with your weight loss goals, it is very similar to having two people living inside your body.  On one side there is the person that you feel is “you” and that person tries to get centered in the good things of life.  This “you” is what most believe is the real, physical being that lives and walks the Earth.  If that is the case and this “you” is who you believe you are….then who is the other person that eats the ice cream and fails at the weight loss attempt?  Is there an evil twin living inside that drags you down the wrong path? 

Throughout history there have been many people that had identity issues and committed heinous crimes when they were not able to control their actions.  Those very same people did things that they were not able to control and they lost their identity and their conscious reality that propelled them to do things they would have never done otherwise.  Are you the same?  Are you a person that has a silent war going on inside that is silently screaming for attention?  If you are always failing to lose weight there needs to be a reason, is that reason the fact that there are two people living inside one head?  Is this the cause for depression in some people? 

For the average person reading this the answer is a simple and curt…”No!”  For the average person looking to lose weight it is all a matter of not only choices, but also motivation and the desire for change.  There may be a bit of a lack of willpower thrown into the mix, but the reality is the lack of sustained motivation,because of the repetitive history of failure after failure.  For those of you new to the Law of Attraction let me explain, very briefly.  For me to try to explain the Law of Attraction here and now would be equivalent to teaching you the Bible in five minutes.  It would not be possible, because even at it’s basic tenet the Law of Attraction is simplistically complex.

On the fringes of the Law of Attraction the basic understanding is that you get returned to you (in life) what you dwell upon in your thoughts.  If you fear you will die of cancer, you have a greater chance of developing cancer.  If you your thoughts dwell on being poor, you remain poor.  If your thoughts dwell upon the fact that the Lord will always give you enough to “get by”, you will always…just “get by.”  If your thoughts spend too much time fearing weight loss failure, then you have increased your odds of the universe handing you, yet another failure.  A great contemporary thinker, Dr. Wayne Dyer, has a simple and yet awesome response to the fact that you are having trouble losing weight.  He has written a wonderful and easy to read book entitled Excuses Begone!
The pages in his book can lift your weight loss attempts out of the past and into the present moment.  Dr. Dyer has simply stated that the best way to combat your demons is to stop living in the past, and stop living in the future.  A person needs to start living, “in the now, in the moment, in the here and now.”  The past is over, the future is not here yet and the only thing you have going for your weight loss attempt is this moment and this moment is all you really need to lose weight.

If you live in the moment your past will not run you over as you try to make the changes in your daily life.  If you live for the moment you start to notice the wonders of the world.  You see the clouds and notice the wind, and in my case, see the feather tumbling down the aisle in retail store.  By living in the now you begin to understand that there is no evil twin, there is no such thing as an excuse, there are only the choices that we make.  Those choices are made moment by moment and they form the building block of what we are and what we can become.  If we dwell on our failures, failure is what we will receive. 

The Law of Attraction is about as simple as to explain as Christianity.  It is only when we dig deep and interject our thoughts and our questions does it start to become muddied up.  Only when we start throwing gunk into the formula do we start to slow down and stop manifesting the future we so much desire. 

As you try to live in the moment and create the life and the body you desire just try to make the best decision right now because that decision is the only one that really matters.