OverWeight and Alone

Walking in a Wal-Mart today I watched all the people coming and going.  I watched the cell phone conversations and the rushing shoppers at the checkout going about their daily rush.  As I was in no hurry I quietly moved around the food portion of the store and noticed an overweight young woman in the frozen food section.  She was quite cute and yet I could tell that she was unhappy because she was obese.  I could tell that she was trying to lose weight because she was looking over all the food labels and I guess she was counting calories or some other marker for weight loss.  I really was not making any judgment about the young lady because I knew that my hero Wayne Dyerwould not approve.  Dr. Dyer has taught me that all people are good and that whatever situation they are in that is alright and it is not for me, nor anyone else to judge.  As I sat there semi-staring at the young woman I noticed that she had no wedding ring and that she herself was in no particular rush.  As she wandered up and down the aisles I could see the inner conflict of the need of having to eat but also the pain that over-eating had brought to her life.  She picked up and flipped back food in disgust after seeing the information on the food label.

I then noticed by looking into her shopping cart that she obviously lived alone by the food selection in her cart.  I really sensed that this woman was in emotional pain and that at the root of it all was the fact that she was overweight.  I could tell by her body language that she was insecure in herself.  I sensed that she was alone and that she had an inner sadness about her.  I wanted to go up to her and provide her the teachings of Wayne Dyer but there would be no possible way for me to even mention the subject without my wife thinking I was flirting with a “fat chick”.  I looked away and walked away as my attention changed to other subjects. 

It was not too much later that I was in the dog food aisle and saw a rather obese man buying some dog treats.  Out of nowhere this man started a conversation with me about how great his dog was and how they were best friends.  I was told how upset his little buddy would be if they ran out of treats.  This young man talked about rambling subjects merely because I was listening.  It was not long before I realized that in the course of this conversation that “Mark”, was a very lonely man.  I was even able to know without a doubt that he too was very self conscious about being obese.  We spoke for a few minutes before we went our separate ways.   I could tell that he felt as he was a prisoner in his body and that he was all alone.

It was not until I returned to my car that I realized I had just seen or met two people that were overweight and in deep emotional pain.  As I sat there in my car I realized that the woman and the man I saw in the store were putting off life merely because they were overweight.  I realized that right there among the crowded aisles of the store these two were in pain because they were alone and felt as if their weight was the reason why they were alone.

I soon thought to myself how many overweight individuals that are out there right now crying out for love and emotions.  I was sad to think that there are millions of obese people that long to be touched by another human being yet feel as if they are too ugly and instead hide in the confinement of being alone.

As I sit here this night let me plead to you that there is no need for you to be alone.  With obesity reaching epic proportions in this nation, what makes you think there are not thousands of obese people right near your home seeking the same type of emotional embracement.  If you are overweight and alone it does not have to be that way.  There are many support groups out there that can help you not only lose weight but also help you find love.   You need to stop thinking that you are the only overweight and alone person out in the world today.  If you are tired of being alone, then do something about it.  Take the first step.  Look for another obese person to help you both lose weight and start a relationship.  There is no reason in the world today why you need to be alone.

If you desire to fulfill your emotional needs then you need to take the first step.  Join a dating service and look for someone that is looking for someone like you.  If you think you are alone it is only because you have chosen to not venture out and find the person that is looking for you.