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Walking in a Wal-Mart today I watched all the people coming and going.  I watched the cell phone conversations and the rushing shoppers at the checkout going about their daily rush.  As I was in no hurry I quietly moved around the food portion of the store and noticed an overweight young woman in the frozen food section.  She was quite cute and yet I could tell that she was unhappy because she was obese.  I could tell that she was trying to lose weight because she was looking over all the food labels and I guess she was counting calories or some other marker for weight loss.  I really was not making any judgment about the young lady because I knew that my hero Wayne Dyerwould not approve.  Dr. Dyer has taught me that all people are good and that whatever situation they are in that is alright and it is not for me, nor anyone else to judge.  As I sat there semi-staring at the young woman I noticed that she had no wedding ring and that she herself was in no particular rush.  As she wandered up and down the aisles I could see the inner conflict of the need of having to eat but also the pain that over-eating had brought to her life.  She picked up and flipped back food in disgust after seeing the information on the food label.

I then noticed by looking into her shopping cart that she obviously lived alone by the food selection in her cart.  I really sensed that this woman was in emotional pain and that at the root of it all was the fact that she was overweight.  I could tell by her body language that she was insecure in herself.  I sensed that she was alone and that she had an inner sadness about her.  I wanted to go up to her and provide her the teachings of Wayne Dyer but there would be no possible way for me to even mention the subject without my wife thinking I was flirting with a “fat chick”.  I looked away and walked away as my attention changed to other subjects. 

It was not too much later that I was in the dog food aisle and saw a rather obese man buying some dog treats.  Out of nowhere this man started a conversation with me about how great his dog was and how they were best friends.  I was told how upset his little buddy would be if they ran out of treats.  This young man talked about rambling subjects merely because I was listening.  It was not long before I realized that in the course of this conversation that “Mark”, was a very lonely man.  I was even able to know without a doubt that he too was very self conscious about being obese.  We spoke for a few minutes before we went our separate ways.   I could tell that he felt as he was a prisoner in his body and that he was all alone.

It was not until I returned to my car that I realized I had just seen or met two people that were overweight and in deep emotional pain.  As I sat there in my car I realized that the woman and the man I saw in the store were putting off life merely because they were overweight.  I realized that right there among the crowded aisles of the store these two were in pain because they were alone and felt as if their weight was the reason why they were alone.

I soon thought to myself how many overweight individuals that are out there right now crying out for love and emotions.  I was sad to think that there are millions of obese people that long to be touched by another human being yet feel as if they are too ugly and instead hide in the confinement of being alone.

As I sit here this night let me plead to you that there is no need for you to be alone.  With obesity reaching epic proportions in this nation, what makes you think there are not thousands of obese people right near your home seeking the same type of emotional embracement.  If you are overweight and alone it does not have to be that way.  There are many support groups out there that can help you not only lose weight but also help you find love.   You need to stop thinking that you are the only overweight and alone person out in the world today.  If you are tired of being alone, then do something about it.  Take the first step.  Look for another obese person to help you both lose weight and start a relationship.  There is no reason in the world today why you need to be alone.

If you desire to fulfill your emotional needs then you need to take the first step.  Join a dating service and look for someone that is looking for someone like you.  If you think you are alone it is only because you have chosen to not venture out and find the person that is looking for you.

My wife has had a weight problem for quite a few years and at first it was kind of cute to tickle her belly and utter quips about her love handles.  As time went on the jokes faded and she went from a size 11 waist to a 16 and then somewhere along the journey she became a 22.  Her weight became something that just started to cruise unchecked and out of control.  I was able to keep my handsome figure and by this time was getting upset with “her” weight problem.  As the good husband I always ensured she would have clothing that fit and shopped with her while she purchased new clothes when needed.  Somewhere after she couldn’t fit into her size 22 anymore I received the phone call.  She had a massive heart attack while sitting at the traffic light downtown and was dead before the light turned green.  I was so mad at her at first.  I thought to myself that it was very selfish of her to not get her weight under control and to have left me alone with the children and the bills. Then, after the funeral I started to think of the things I should have done to help her at least stop gaining the weight.

I was the main creator of the menu.  I always assumed the weight problem was hers and she should have just eaten less food and she would have stopped getting so fat.  I now realize that could have substituted so many high fat items for low or no fat and he would have never noticed.  My wife was not the type of person who liked to be nagged and the changes in her diet could have been done in such a way that she would have never even noticed.  Easy examples could have been no fat sour cream instead of full fat.  The salt shaker could have been lost or at least filled with a healthier product.   I could have prepared more meals at home instead of using the convenience of fast food as often.  The list of things I could have done would be long if I were able to stay composed long enough to complete it. 

If you are in a situation that involves one person being overweight and you want to keep them around then you need to act and to take charge and keep the nagging to nil.  If you are the quiet caretaker of your family you can put your loved ones on a healthier track without them even being aware it is being done.  You can park further from the door in the mall.  You can decide to take a walk and ask for company.  I look back on all the little things I could have done to help my wife and I regret not being more proactive.  Her death was not my fault, I realize that.  I can’t help that if I would have learned and understood that she always ate what I put on her plate I could have altered the ingredients.  If I would have started a more active lifestyle she might still be with me today.

You Can Start the Journey Without Them

If your spouse is not ready to lose weight then they are not ready.  There are things you can do to help nudge them on their journey.  You do not have to be a nag, you just have to be subtle and hopefully at least the weight gain will be minimized until they are ready to lose the weight.  Heck, it would have been better than being alone.

The years are passing slowly and your husband who has been by your side for those years has not been very satisfied in the bedroom lately, and you feel you are to blame.  You have sort of glanced over the reasons why you have not desired to make love because of menopause or childbirth, but now the moment of truth is arriving.  Despite all of the lack of attention you have given your sex life it is hard to not notice the fact that you are not that interested in sex anymore.  It is quite possible there are some valid medical reasons for your lack of libido, but you know your lover, your husband is starting to notice.  When you are alone you are starting to wonder if your man is starting to get a wandering eye.  You feel torn because it is not that you do not love him anymore, it is just that you do not have that desire that urge to make love anymore.  Despite the reason, your husband is taking it personally and that is placing a strain on your relationship.

If you feel as if your obesity is what is causing you to lose interest in sex you may be on the right path to a solution.  The emotional issue of obesity is that it lowers your self esteem and makes you unhappy with yourself.  It is a well known fact that if you do not love yourself then you will have trouble loving someone else.  If you are unhappy with your weight it means you are not content with the current condition of your body.  If you look in the mirror at your naked body and do not like what you see how are you going to feel sexy for your lover?  The truth is that you can’t and that is the start of the solution for the missing libido problem.

If you are finding it harder to get into the mood to make love, do not be too hard on yourself.  The reasons for your lack of desire to make love, for a woman, can be many.  There are some things you can do and that is what we would like to talk to you about. 

If you feel as if sex as become a chore then you need to look at your weight and make some fast changes in your life to help salvage your relationship.   One of the fastest ways we know to lose weight is with the use of alli.  The reason why we recommend Alli is that it offers fast weight loss and right now you need fast to help put some spark into your bedroom.  With the introduction of alli into your life you will be able to lose weight in a fairly dramatic and noticeable way.  When you start to lose the weight and see the inches fade from the mirror your husband will notice.  This notice is what you not only want; it is what you need at this point.  You have a desire to be assured that your husband still finds delight in the simple act of making love. 

While taking alli there is also a completely natural product that you can use to bring back that urge to get naked and seduce your husband.  With the simple spray of this bottle into your mouth you will be able to take back some of the spirit you have lost.  With the simple spray of Libido for Her you will not only increase your sex drive you will salvage your marriage.  This product is very potent and it can bring back the desire, the flame to want to make love once again, like you used to when you were just a bit younger and slimmer.

The reason why we talk about these two items together is because alli will drop the weight and help you gain the confidence you have lost, so when the Libido for Her kicks in you will be able to jump back into your life and keep his eyes from wandering at the mall.

The time to act is now because you know his eyes are wandering and you sure as heck do not want him to wander into the bed of another woman.  Follow our recommendations and you can be sexy and slim in no time at all.

I can see you sitting there right now, on the other side of your monitor. I see that you are alone and that you crave the attention of someone to touch you and to hold you. All too often people think of a relationship merely for the sex but you know there is so much more that you want than that. Sure the sexis something to look forward to but you want more. You want to be touched and held and kissed and desire to have someone there to be your best friend and talk to you in the dark before sleep. Cats are nice, but people are better and you are afraid that you will not find the love of your life because you are overweight. You are afraid that there is nobody out there that will want to be with you because you are fat.

Let us be the first to tell you that you are wrong.  You are alone now because you choose to be alone.  If you think that there is not someone out there that is of the sex that you desire that is not crying out in loneliness along with you, then you are wrong.  If you feel as if you are the only obese person that is alone and longs for the tender kiss or touch of another then you are so wrong that you better watch out because I am going to stick my hand through your monitor to slap you back to reality.
If you want to go on a date then click on the the link and sign up for the FREE OFFER to meet someone.  After you fill out the information the entire world will be available to know you want to meet someone.  Answer the questions honestly and then start chatting with what could be the person of your dreams.  If you do not think that it is safe to do this then you really need to listen up.  Going to a bar is not the safest thing to do either Sherlock!  If you desire to meet someone then fill out the application, and go for it!

You may have to sift through a few clunkers before you find that person of your dreams but at least it will get you out of the house.  At least you will come to realize that being overweight is not the real reason that you are alone.  If you want to start meeting people then just do it!  With all of the technology that is out there today the only reason why you are alone is because you are hiding behind your weight as an excuse. 

There are thousands of obese men and woman in the world today and to meet one you need to just make the effort.  Stop making excuses and you could be heading out tonight on the first date in a long time.  My friend (Bill) is 100 pounds overweight and he has dated 7 women in less than 6 months.  With two he spent weekends with in New Orleans and he has started to have the time of his life.  Bill is a great guy and it is wonderful to see him so happy. 

Get up; get moving and stop being alone!  You just need to take the first step!

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So you are overweight and you feel very self conscious about anyone seeing you naked because of the way you look.  You are afraid that as soon as you were to wear that clothing you love someone would make fun of you behind your back.  You spend your days at work and you spend your nights alone and as you watch television you long for someone as special  as all of those fictional TV characters seem to have.  Sometimes you feel as if you are lost in the world as a stranger in the sea of faces that pass you by daily.  You go to work and you come home and once again here you sit, all alone and wanting more out of your life.  You are overweight and that obesity is what you believe is what isolates you from the world where social action occurs.  We here at I Choose Thin want you to know that we can hear the silent screams of the millions of overweight people who are seeking out a companion because they are alone. We are here to offer you a hint of hope.

At our website (IChooseThin.com) we have gathered so much information from firsthand knowledge.  We have been through the part about being overweight and being alone and did not like that portion of our lives.  We are glad you are reading this short page because we want you to know that by seeking you have begun the first step towards healing.  That healing is not some magical pill or weight loss gadget that will cause you to just wake up and be thin and be in love.The healing you are seeking does not begin in your kitchen but it starts in your mind.The fact that you are reading this page right here and right now demonstrates that you are searching for a solution that will allow you to not be alone anymore. 

One main thing about being alone is that it really is your choice.  This may sound strange but what sex are you?  Are you a male or a female?  Up until this point in the article we have refrained from the discussion and you felt as if we were talking about you and we did not know what your sex was.  The point is that is does not matter whether you are a male or a female because everyone craves to be with another.  To think that you are the only overweight man is just as absurd that you are the only overweight female.  Yet here we all sit in this world, all of us alone and yet we all seek companionship.  If you are overweight and alone then the choice really has been one you made because the world has lonely obese people reading this article every day.  The problem of being alone really has little to do with your weight as it does have to do with your choice to be alone.

If you are overweight and want to be thinner and with a companion then start to make the things happen in your life that will allow you to proceed in that direction.  My companion and I have found great comfort in the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer and have applied them to all aspects of our lives.  He offers so much wisdom in how to live a better life that when the man speaks you are compelled to listen.  Why we recommend Wayne Dyer is because by taking his advice we were not only able to take control of our weight but also take control of how we lived our life.  To understand this you need to hear and read what he says for he is one of the kindest and gentlest men you will ever meet.

At the same time you listen to Wayne Dyer we suggest you look into eDiets which is a wonderful online organization for people seeking goals in weight loss.  In the eDiets world you have an endless array of groups to join and meet with online.  This social life is only the beginning as you will be able to start to crawl out of your aloneness by realizing that there are many obese people out in the world who are tired of being alone.  You may be scared to meet someone on the internet but that statement only demonstrates negativity in your belief that you do not have to be alone!  Sure you have to be careful but when are you not suppose to careful?  The world is what it is and eDiets is a great place to not only start to lose some weight but it also is a great place to meet a person with your same interests at heart.

The point we desire you to take with you today is that you may be alone and that really has been your choice and if you are tired of being alone then why not start to make different choices.  Online dating services are also a decent place to start and the fact that they exist is proof that there is no reason for you to be alone!

We want you to be able to cuddle up on your couch with the person you love and that only begins when you start to make the choices we discussed.  Whatever you decide to do rest assured that you may be making the choice at the same time you’re soon to be mate is making theirs.  It all has to begin somewhere so why not decide to make some changes now and choose to stop being alone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

We want you to be able to cuddle up on your couch with the person you love and that only begins when you start to make the choices we discussed.  Whatever you decide to do rest assured that you may be making the choice at the same time you’re soon to be mate is making theirs.  It all has to begin somewhere so why not decide to make some changes now and choose to stop being alone.